So I’ll start off by saying that this isn’t my usual type of blog post. I’m usually sharing my favorite products, outfits, or travel guides. Today I wanted to write a little bit about me. That’s what a blog should be anyway, right? It’s so easy to always share the typical things you’d see, like what I mentioned above, but I also want to make sure I’m keeping it real with you guys too! So here’s a little life update and what’s been on my mind lately…
It’s fall now so my main job in wedding coordinating is slowing down for the “off” season, and I’ve been doing some styling for a boutique while trying to focus more on growing my blog! I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on how much my life has changed in the passed year and a half, and how it’s definitely changed for the better.
When I first moved to Seattle, I had a different job in a totally different career field. And this year, in April, I celebrated the one year after officially quitting that job. Sounds a little silly to celebrate leaving a job when most people celebrate getting a job. Let me tell you something, in some ways, finally calling it quits can be even better for you than saying yes. Because in this situation, saying goodbye, meant saying hello to a happier life. So I will tell you some of the positive ways my life has changed since leaving that job.
My style. It probably sounds goofy, but I’m a girly girl and I truly enjoy being creative with my wardrobe and my style. Leaving this job meant that I no longer had to feel ashamed about that. You read that right. Before I quit, I always felt like I wasn’t taken seriously just because I was a girly girl with my style. I would show up to work looking nice and people would think it was odd. No one should ever be made to feel uncomfortable for taking pride in how they present themselves. So yay to me for being free to rock cute outfits and have people actually appreciate them!
Getting ready for work is fun! Now when I get ready for my day, I don’t feel like I have to amp myself up and put my armor on. I used to feel like I was getting ready for battle. You can imagine that hitting snooze wasn’t just because I wanted more sleep. It was because I was avoiding my job. Now I wake up energized, enjoy my coffee, check emails, and get excited for the possibilities of a new day.
No more paranoia. Even when I wasn’t at work, I used to be paranoid all the time that I had done something the wrong way at work because I was being severely micromanaged. Let me tell you something. Micromanaging a person to make yourself feel more in control, is a horrible thing. If you ever want your employees to learn, feel empowered, and be happy with their work, put a little trust in them and if they’re getting the job done, it shouldn’t matter that they didn’t do it your way. Now I can actually enjoy my free time, because the people I work for/with, actually trust me. Because you know what, I’m a smart, capable woman. No one can make me feel differently anymore.
No more crap! This might have been the most important lesson I’ve ever learned in my life (which is one of the few good things I took away from the experience of hating my job). I learned that I will never ever waste my time doing something that doesn’t make me happy. We all have a choice. When I finally chose “happy,” it changed my life and I left like I could breathe again. It was the most incredible feeling to take back that power over my life. From now on, I will always choose “happy.”
Married life is so fun! My husband and I moved out of the city back in February, and we are living in the cutest village only a block away from a beach on Lake Washington. We are a five minute drive from Downtown Kirkland, which has tons of little restaurants and boutiques (my dream). And we are loving the slower pace of suburban life. Never thought I’d say that lol. Kids of our own are still in the future though. We still feel like kids ourselves! We are enjoying the present for now.
We have taken some fun trips this year! We did Portland, Vegas, Coachella, New Orleans, Leavenworth for Oktoberfest, and we still have California next month for a wedding! We are truly at our best when we are traveling and exploring new places.
Something I don’t think I’ve ever talked about is anxiety. I’m pretty positive that I have it. It’s something I’ve always struggled with and never really thought deeply about until this year. My new years resolution for this year was to work on having a healthy, worry-free mind. Mental health is a big deal and should always be taken seriously. I’ve noticed since I have changed careers that I am able to relax more, so that definitely helps. I’ve also created some of my own exercises for myself. When I am feeling anxious or worried (when everyone around me seems at ease), I think deeply about the situation and try to understand why I’m so worried. It helps me take a breath and a second look. I usually end up self-soothing and feeling much better. I also try to surround myself with the things that I love (candles, incense, my fave pandora station, Stevie Nicks Radio lol, I’m a hippy at heart). It’s not easy to talk about but I know that this is something that’s important to share. Especially if it can help someone who’s reading this. Life is not always as care-free and glamorous as it seems on social media lol.
It’s fall. So naturally I’m obsessed with everything that’s going on. Fall is my favorite season and Halloween is my all time favorite holiday. Ever since I was a little kid, I loved dressing up for Halloween, decorating the house, and watching spooky movies. The fall fashion is also my fave because I LOVE being cozy. Give me all the big sweaters, cute boots, corduroy pants, and velvet anything and I’m one happy girl! You can always follow me on the Like.to.know.it app to shop my favorite fall items. I also cut my hair short! I took the plunge and I LOVE IT! It takes five minutes to style it and I feel like I’m channeling Kristin Cavallari (she’s my soul sister lol).
Our dog Dez is as happy as ever. He lives the life of a royal basically. He’s pretty spoiled. Our families are wonderful and we are so fortunate to have so much love and support around us. We also have some pretty awesome friends, old and new.
Finally, I’m so thankful that I have this kind of platform, to share my life and the things I love, as well as the things I’ve experienced. To whoever reads my blog, you’re awesome and thank YOU for being supportive simply by reading. Whoever you are and whatever you do, I hope you are HAPPY! And I hope you know I will always support you too!
I’m always happy to meet new people and be someone you can talk to, so feel free to reach out to me anytime!
Happy Monday! XOXO -M